The Meaning Of Your Family Name



You can tell a lot about you and your relatives from the common name you share. Your family name represents important lessons you chose to learn together. Knowing the nature of your family’s ‘common thread’ can help bring harmony to these relationships and help heal the wounds incurred simply from being so closely related. This knowledge can also help reduce the risk of inherited disease by understanding the type of stress that the energy of your family name produces.

First, convert the letters of your family name into numbers,
using the following table:

A    J    S  = 1

B    K    T = 2

C    L    U = 3

D   M   V = 4

E   N   W = 5

F    O   X = 6

G    P    Y = 7

H   Q   Z = 8

I     R  = 9

Example: if your family name is JACKSON, you would add:
1 + 1 + 3 + 2 + 1 + 6 + 5 = 19
Keep adding until you obtain a single number, i.e. 
1 + 9 = 10 and 1 + 0 = 1
The JACKSON family number is 1.

Be sure to double-check your calculations

THE 1 FAMILY came together in this lifetime to learn about independence, originality, individuality, masculine energy, change, ambition, and leadership. They have a strong competitive streak. They like to be first, and each generation can usually boast a family member who is, for example, the first in the family to have twins; become famous; the first doctor; first teacher etc.

Originality and independence from peer pressure are essential. What an impressive bunch they can be when they are being themselves. Problems arise when they strive to impress or emulate others. 1 is a strong masculine energy which often regards emotional expression as a weakness but, as time passes and they learn about the positive power of emotion, the true depth of their love and compassion emerges. Knowing that they don’t always have to be invincible and in control of their emotions also enables them to heal from adverse situations more easily.

Individuality, within the family, and outside in the big world, must be respected. Their potential for creative achievement is enormous, but they must learn that there is no set way to “be”, and that one person’s idea of success or happiness, or love, is not necessarily another’s.

Reducing the stress that this number produces can reduce the possibility of diseases affecting the eyes, heart, lungs, and blood. This family’s stress comes from over-competitiveness, dependencies, and the fear of being wrong.

THE 2 FAMILY are learning about connection, emotion, intuition, patience, nurturing, peace, and self-worth. They are dominated by a strong feminine influence, are meticulous in their habits, and love to get deeply into detail. However, imbalances of power can cause a martyr-complex throughout the family which results in some uncomfortable and unnecessary guilt trips.

This family came together for the purpose of evolving into a new level of freedom – total openness – without turning everything into a major drama and taking everything personally. Anguish can be avoided when they learn to speak from their hearts and not assume that others instinctively know what they’re thinking, what to do, or what is happening.

Generally, this group sticks together even when there are serious problems between them – simply out of love for each other. They exude patience and diplomacy, but if they become too cautious with their words, their very strong feelings may never be expressed. Openness and diplomacy must be balanced. Valuable connections can be made and peaceful solutions can be found through this family and, because they are so sensitive to feelings, (when they are not being over-sensitive), they can be wonderful mediators and helpful, cooperative friends and neighbors.

Reducing the stress that this vibration produces can reduce the possibility of diabetes, tumors, ulcers, hemorrhoids, and disorders of the circulatory or reproductive systems. This family’s stress comes from oversensitivity, fear of rocking the boat, and harboring secret grudges.

THE 3 FAMILY are learning about child development, happiness, friendship, humor, appearances, illusions, creativity, beauty, innocence, communication, and the power of words. This family have come together to learn how to communicate honestly and constructively.

There is something unique about the voices of this family. However, circumstances can create “enforced silence” so that certain issues cannot be discussed, or even mentioned. The feelings involved become trapped, and conversation is then limited to trivia, gossip, hearsay – and argument simply for the sake of being right.

The 3 family can give the appearance of happiness and friendliness but, when their feelings are held inside instead of being expressed outwardly, they tend to become critical of the general appearance of others, and overly concerned with their own physical appearance, or the general ‘impression’ they wish to make .

Struggling to take themselves and others seriously, they try to conceal their criticisms with what they believe is a sense of humor. This comes from guilt which, in turn, stems from the very topic they believe they cannot discuss. They have a habit of abruptly changing the subject which often confuses those who really would like to take these people more seriously!

When they allow themselves to heal from the past, they have the highest potential to experience pure joy and deep friendship – and to develop a form of communication which is based on honesty and spontaneity. Unrestricted creativity and conversation that comes from the heart, and from fact rather than hearsay, allows this family to shine.

Reducing the stress typical of this family number also reduces the possibility of diseases which effect the throat, liver, skin, urinary tract, blood pressure, and digestive system. This family’s stress comes from peer pressure, guilt, addictions, unexpressed feelings, and lack of creative purpose.

THE 4 FAMILY came together to learn about success – through effort, hard work, order, tolerance, detail and overcoming limitation. This family has tendencies which can seem odd and unusual; yet, they tend to be very serious in their approach to life. They often want the latest gadgets and are fascinated by the mechanics of almost everything. It is their seriousness concerning work-related matters that is most noticeable, no matter how laid-back or eccentric they try to be.

This family has inherited a down-to-earth, no-frills energy which has them striving for success in whatever they do. They believe there is a ‘proper’ way to do things, and that their way IS the proper way. They need a lifestyle which is built around work, routine, caution, self-discipline, efficiency, attention to detail, and positive results.

Social difficulties arise when they become annoyed by those who do not share their strong work ethic. Loneliness is felt by most 4 family members at times and, to counteract this, they must reduce their tendency to judge others by their level of productivity, and to freely and frequently partake in the unstructured and lighter side of life.

Reducing the stress that this number produces also reduces the possibility of diseases which can be rare, mysterious, and difficult to diagnose, treat, or even locate. This family’s stress comes from overwork, disorder, and unaddressed sadness and anger.

THE 5 FAMILY are learning about freedom, new experience, adventure, variety, change, presence, sexuality, and the physical body. They possess a strong presence and a memorable physical look. Their attitudes, beliefs, temperaments and occupations can be quite different from one another, making it difficult to find any kind of common thread. Each has their own unique view of the world and their own definition of success and happiness. Although this is true of most families, 5s are the most diverse. They learn quickly about tolerance and usually encourage others to be themselves. They can end up a long way from home and from each other, yet a strong bond usually remains. Having to deal with sudden and sometimes traumatic situations enables them to accept that, over time, people, places, and circumstances really do shift, change, adapt and evolve.

If their need for excitement is not being met, 5 family members can be prone to substance abuse, addictions and excess of all kinds, gambling, and sometimes foolish chance-taking. They are sensitive to each others’ feelings, but tensions arise when differing opinions and feelings are held inside rather than expressed. They thrive on openness.

Reducing the stress that this number produces also reduces the possibility of nervous tension, mental and emotional exhaustion, dizziness, facial twitching (often around the eyes), and sudden exotic illnesses. This family’s stress comes from unaddressed fear, lack of freedom, oppressive relationships, being unfairly judged, overindulgence, and prolonged boredom.

THE 6 FAMILY are learning about loyalty, family, domestic matters, love, education, healing, judgment, extremes, and balance. The main focus of the 6 family IS family – and loyalty. Their sense of duty and responsibility is enormous, but this can be misused in a way that prevents the individuals in this family from being individuals. They all want the best out of life, but decisions are often based on the desires of the family’s hierarchy. Children can feel accountable to the parents well into their adulthood and even after the parents have died. Life revolves around the home and although friends are plentiful they, too, are held to a high standard.

Usually, the 6 household is a warm and wonderful place to be because it thrives on entertaining, healing, and teaching. While the love within the family may be unconditional, they must learn to apply this principle to those whose experience of life is different from their own. Problems occur when they judge others according to their own particular set of beliefs.

Reducing the stress that this number produces also reduces the possibility of allergies and ailments of the ears, nose, throat, lungs, and breasts. This family’s stress comes from imbalance of power, obsession, dictatorial approaches, and unaddressed guilt.

THE 7 FAMILY came together so that its members could learn about spirituality, the inner self, introspection, reflection, privacy, secrets, dignity, criticism, snobbery, and the quest for perfection.

There are usually secrets in the 7 family, many of which need not be secrets at all. 7 family members want to retain their dignity at all costs and often feel that it would be undignified to let certain truths about themselves be known. They usually keep a low profile, and can go to great lengths to maintain their privacy. The problem is that this tendency arises out of a fear of being seen as less than perfect. This creates a family of worriers who suffer from headaches and, sometimes, paranoia. While they cannot bear criticism of themselves, they do tend to analyze and criticize others. However, when they become comfortable with the spiritual and intellectual path they chose to travel together, 7 families can achieve a level of perfection which not only allows them and others to make mistakes, but also prompts others to seek their advice on a great variety of matters.

The 7 family is usually interested in the sciences, religion, spirituality, philosophy, and/or technology , and there are probably a lot of books in the family home. These people are ‘the thinkers’ of the numerological spectrum. They need quiet, peaceful, and elegant surroundings in which to delve deep into their ultra-active minds. They must learn, however, that thinking alone achieves very little. They must learn to express their feelings with as much passion as their thoughts because this will help to counteract the feelings of loneliness that often plague them.

They must learn to accept the human body, along with all its juices, and burps, and farts, as part of the perfection that human life is. They must learn to accept the mundane aspects of life, along with the highlights.

By reducing the stress that this number produces, you can reduce the possibility of hereditary diseases such as insomnia, migraines, stomach and digestive illness. The 7 family stress is caused by pessimism, intolerance, worry, shame, and the tendency to imagine the worst.

THE 8 FAMILY came together to learn about power on the material plane, wealth, tolerance, self-acceptance, love, sharing, and accurate understanding. They are often focused on success and status. They are willing to work hard for what they want. If they don’t have their own business, they gravitate toward the solid, traditional areas of the working world to make their mark, and they usually want to make as much money as possible.

Harsh words are spoken and tensions arise if anyone threatens to damage their reputation, or when too much emphasis is placed on money, job, or prestige. And yet, unhappiness also comes from ignoring their genuine need for these things. They need to find a balance in which the fruits of life can be attained, enjoyed, and shared, rather than used as status symbols.

8s want to be taken seriously, and this is achieved by recognizing the merits of others, and from exercising careful planning. They want the very best quality, including the quality of their relationships.

Reducing the stress that this number produces also reduces the possibility of headaches, constipation, rheumatism, depression, and problems with the blood, joints, teeth, and bones. When illness arises, members of the 8 family should get second and even third opinions as there is a tendency for misdiagnosis, mistreatment, and incorrect prescriptions. This family’s stress comes from denied anger, fear of scandal, and unnecessary guilt which stems from their emphasis on material and financial matters.

THE 9 FAMILY came together in this lifetime to learn about reality, love, the power and purpose of emotions (feminine energy), generosity, peace, humanity, global awareness, freedom, completion, and letting go.

This family often appears to be chaotic and lacking structure or planning. Although many lessons can be learned about planning ahead, the 9 family needs to be more flexible than most. Accidents occur more frequently than illness in this group. Sudden endings and unexpected beginnings take place simultaneously, and family life is often an emotional rollercoaster.

The number 9 contains the energies of all the other numbers – from 1 to 8 – (1+2+3+4+5+6+7+8 = 36. 3 + 6 = 9), which explains not only their diversity, but also why, between them, they seem to know something about almost everything. They are usually outgoing people who will fight for what they believe in. Of course, this can add to the chaos because they believe in such a wide variety of things.

The common thread running through this group is made of compassion and the desire to understand. But when this thread becomes entangled in the everyday pains of life, their personalities can alter drastically. They simply must express their feelings. This is their natural way. Eventually, they learn that there are appropriate times and places to vent their strong emotions, but they must then be careful that their sense of propriety does not reverse the process and prevent them from expressing their emotions entirely.

They love each other deeply, and there is usually no game-playing among them. They are “family”. They are also individuals. It’s as simple as that.

Reducing the stress that this number produces also reduces the possibility of diseases which, in the case of the 9 family, could be just about anything. Accidents may be more common than disease. This family’s stress is caused primarily by resentment – the result of holding on to their feelings, instead of them letting go by expressing them outwardly.


About Christine DeLorey

Numerologist and author of LIFE CYCLES Your Emotional Journey To Freedom And Happiness (ISBN: 0-9673130-9-0). Author of the nine-book series: CREATIVE NUMEROLOGY Your Journey Through The Cycles Of Time. My main website is:
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20 Responses to The Meaning Of Your Family Name

  1. wpm1955 says:

    I just wanted to tell you how much I enjoyed this post. From now on, I’m going to be calculating the family name of every person I meet. Before I married, I used to take the handwriting of every guy I dated to a handwriting analyst. She told me my future husband had really good, honest writing, and he has turned out to be a real gem. I could see that single women could calculate the family names of prospective marriage partners to see what the result would be if they changed their name at the marriage ceremony (or might be helpful in deciding to keep one’s own name).

    I hope you will make more practical posts in this vein. As a reader, this is really the kind of post I’ve been hoping for!

    Best regards,
    Madame Monet (in the Middle East)
    Writing, Painting, Music, and Wine


  2. wpm1955 says:

    I have a question. In my region of the Middle East, family names are very recent in many cases. For example, people were still going just by first names even fifty years ago, especially in rural areas. They differentiate each other like this in the rural mountains: Hassan taxi, Hassan carpenter, Hassan silly head, Hassan baker, Hassan club foot, Hassan short, Hassan tall, etc. So you can kind of see how last names arose in Western culture.

    So, in the case of my father-in-law, when he was in his twenties, the government came around to the people who did not have last names, and asked everyone to choose one (which makes us a “5” family, by the way). I quite like this name, which actually means “lucky” in our local language.

    About twenty years ago, while traveling through Burundi, I was the guest of some black Africans in their home. I discovered that every child in the family had a different last name than each parent. When I inquired as to how this could be, I was told that, “Last names are a European, colonialist invention forced upon us. When we make out a child’s birth certificate, we just choose any last name we want for that child, and everyone in the family has completely different last names because we like it that way.” So, my question is, how would numerology apply to such a family? Would it mean they would not be together to learn as a family, but each person just to learn on his own?

    Best regards,
    Madame Monet (in the Middle East)
    Writing, Painting, Music, and Wine


  3. Hello Madame Monet

    What rich questions you ask, and I will try to answer them to the best of my knowledge. Yes it is interesting to see how family names were derived in western culture – and how western culture has found its way into almost every other culture. Most cultures have their own calendars (‘time-tables’) but, because the industrial era came out of the western world, and because industry has taken over the world, the western calendar rules the day, and changes cultures as it goes.

    Africa is caught up in the western takeover, too, and there is much conformity going on there. This is sad because wherever old traditions are adhered to, those people do not do too well. The same can be said of the Native American people who were all but wiped out by the influx of Europeans to the Americas. They had no family names either. It was common for them to name their babies after the first thing they saw at the time of birth, such as Sitting Bull, Eagle Feather, Two Rivers, or Running Deer.

    It’s not that anything was wrong with the way they named their children, or the way the people of Burundi name theirs. Rather, it boils down to the western flaw of desiring uniformity – sameness – everything alike. Now, in the United States, as well as many parts of Europe, each town looks just like every other town. Fashion is limited and dull. Everyone strives to look the same. Please God, save originality!

    Although we can see logically how some family names came into being, i.e. Henry the Horse Shodder became Henry Smith, I think that spiritually, there is more to it than that. Throughout history, we humans have not learned a lot. Look at us! Humanity fights with itself! How stupid is that? And because of all the suffering involved, I think our spiritual essence fragmented, and that is perhaps why reincarnation needs to exist – so that we can eventually learn, evolve and become whole again. It could be that some of the people we are dealing with closely in this lifetime, i.e. family, may indeed be fragments of ourselves, of each other, parts of a whole being who have come back to reconnect. Or, they could be individual souls who have come together to learn something specific, evolve, and become individually whole. Metaphysical speculation can get very deep. Personally, I hope those old traditions – and diversity itself – are able to continue.
    With love,


  4. georgina says:

    Yes what a fabulous site. I WILL BE LOOKING AT THE MEANING OF FAMILY NAMES ALSO. My family have been sceptical for all my years of numerological belief, but the revelations of our family name astounded them!!!


  5. Parin Stormlaughter says:

    Ha! My maiden name family number is 9 and so is my married name family number!

    Whew. No wonder. Great post!


  6. Anonymous says:

    what about master numbers, like mine was 33. Or should I just go with 6?


  7. Anonymous says:

    Can I ask a possibly silly question…? (I absolutely loved Ms. Monet’s questions, by the way–it got me thinking).
    Those of us of Irish or Scottish decent are often O’ (of) or Mc/Mac (son of) and I often wonder if with “o apostrophe” names there is any significance to the apostrophe. My family is a 9 and Ms. Monet got me thinking about all the trouble our apostrophe has caused technically, adding anymore to a 9 seems even more interesting…though it’s interesting even if it were a 1 name. Does this make any sense?


    • I think that any symbol used on such a widespread basis is going to have considerable meaning, but I must admit that I haven’t given it a lot of thought. The apostrophe in this case does not have a numerical value but serves to position the letters in a certain way. However, we must also consider that it used to be, in Ireland, that almost every name was preceded by O’ – but that’s not so any more. So, it could be, in the course of time, that the O’ has lost its ancient meaning… I wonder too about the significance of capital letters in names such as DeLorey. I believe it once had meaning, but in today’s reality whatever that meaning was is slipping into the past.


  8. Excellent reference for others! Astrologically speaking, your last name harmonizes with your sun sign. The two energies explain your foundational beliefs and your home beliefs! Shared on Facebook.


  9. Sofia, the above post explains how last names influence the life of a person. To go more deeply into that, you may want to get a personal reading done. I offer the name change service you ask about, but I don’t always recommend that a change of name is needed.


  10. Kris says:

    Dear Christine DeLorey, thank you for your post! How would you suggest to deal with umlaute in the German language? Do I treat “ü” as “u” or as “ue?” Thank you!


  11. Kai says:

    Is there a difference between (just for example) “Bela” and “Béla” ??
    I have been thinking about this for a while now. Do these accents make a difference?


    • It’s a great question, but I don’t think so, Kai. We are dealing here with the numeric values of specific letters of the alphabet. It is the positioning of each letter in the alphabet which depicts the numeric value:

      B is is 2nd place, E is is 5th place, L is in 12th, and A is in 1st.

      An accent may change the pronunciation slightly, but the actual letters remain the same. Similarly, I am British living in the USA. I pronounce many words differently to most Americans, but that is just my British accent. The words and their meanings remain the same.


  12. angelsong119 says:

    Hi Christine , I really was amazed at the accuracy of the descriptions. I would like to know how a last name which is the original family name, then a hyphen adding the married name would be figured.
    Thank you 😊


    • I’m so glad you enjoyed this, Angelsong. Thank you for your question. It depends on how the names were derived. Some family names are INHERITED energy (they came directly from a biological parent), and some are ACQUIRED energy, such as legal name changes and married names etc.

      In children who are given both the maternal and paternal names, I interpret them separately so that they know which side of the family each energy is coming from, and then because both are biologically derived, I put them together – and a separate number emerges. However, if both names hold the same number, I do not add them together. I hope that makes sense.


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